Making mistakes, is relatively easy. Unfortunately, learning from them, can take a bit of time.
Today, I’ve been pondering just how long it’s taken me to realise how many mistakes I’ve been making over the last few months. It’s actually shocking to think that it’s possible to make as many mistakes and blunders, as I have, and not even be aware of them.

But it’s true. Just as it’s possible to make mistakes, it’s also possible, to be mistaken, in thinking just making them is enough to learn from them.

Usually, for a mistake to provide you with learning/feedback, you need for something dramatic to occur.

An event, an upset, a breakdown, a crisis, it’s usually of a negative nature, as you’re producing results that aren’t of the desired outocme on an increasing frequency through trying harder.

Whilst in the short term, trying harder might seem like the wisest thing to do, it’s true value is uncovered in accelerating the speed with which your mistakes will accumuiate, and your failures will really start to add up.

As I want to make as many mistakes as possible this year, I’m almost encouraged to try even harder next time. To try to do more, and to make more of an effort, so that I might be able to accumulate a lot more learning in a shorter space of time.

That said, if the lessons you have to learn are unpleasant truths about yourself, then be prepared to get critical of yourself, and not assume that it’ll be easy coasting. It could be traumatic, it will definitely stretch you without a doubt, and it will also be potentially some of the most maturing influences that can happen to you. But I never promised that learning through mistakes was going to be a walk in the park.. It’s a hard graft, that through time, will toughen your disposition, help you sharpen your focus, and become both as tough as nails, and kinder in your dealings with others. But make no mistake, when mistakes are made, it really does test the mettle of your character. If you’re not sure that you’re being stressed enough then you’re not trying hard enough.

Points of failure can only emerge, when the entire system is stress tested, and having gone past the points a system were designed for, it’s when something attempts to grow/adapt past that point, that the real challenge begins to occur. It’s at this point, that you make sure, everyone on your team is still with you, because if you lose them, I guarantee you you definitely won’t succeed.

Teams are crucial to success, and failing to understand, respect and acknowledge their importance, value, and contribution, it’s easy to fail. But with those skills developed, it makes the whole process that much smoother.

But first you have to start with yourself. Make sure you set up some sort of recurrent review/feedback process that you can use on yourself, to check that your internal compass is properly aligned, and that you’re at least reviewing your interactions with others.

Then, over time, you’ll start to find yourself spotting how you could have done better in your dealings with others.

At least that’s a start. Of course, if you think there’s a smarter way to learn from your mistakes, it would be an honour to hear from you your opinion.

So keep making those mistakes, and remember to solicit as many sources of feedback as possible, since without it, you won’t really be able to orient yourself, in the landscape of your failure. But just remember, out of all failure and adversity, are planted the seeds of greatness, if we but realise how to water, and care for them.

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